Cindy Ghanie
Professor Von Uhl/Professor Yankwitt
FIQWS HA9
1 December 2021
From Girlhood to Adulthood Under a Freudian Lens
Oftentimes in literature authors use their written works as critiques on certain problems within society. They can be dissected in more than one way to demonstrate the layers written into the story. In “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been”, Joyce Carol Oates portrays the struggle one undertakes when shifting from girlhood to adulthood, which can further be explored through a Freudian lens where concepts such as condensation and fantasies can be respectively related to Arnold Friend’s character and the duality of Connie’s appearance.
When dissected through a Freudian lens, the main character of the story, Connie, clearly engages in phantasies. The first couple paragraphs of the short story details Connie’s pretty appearance as well as her family dynamic, and how one can affect the other. Specifically, the introduction of the story makes it a point that Connie’s mother berates her for caring about her looks and constantly compares her to her older sister, June. When describing a particular experience at home, the story reveals that “Connie’s mother kept picking at her until Connie wished her mother was dead and she herself was dead and it was all over” (Oates 1). The persistent comparison drives Connie to harbor dark feelings towards her mother. This leads Connie to develop a second version of herself, “one for home and one for anywhere that was not home” (Oates 2).[I really like the way you supported this idea] Everything about the version of herself meant for outside her house was looser and what she wanted people to perceive her as. Along with this second version of herself, “her mind was filled with trashy daydreams” (Oates 1). Engaging with these daydreams as well as becoming someone else outside her house, {elaborate how she is someone else} suggests that her home-life leaves something to be desired and she seeks some kind of mental relief by partaking in these thoughts and activities.
By relating the Freudian concept of phantasies to the duality of Connie’s behavior, it further supports the idea that Connie is unhappy with her reality and home life. By definition, a phantasy is made “to make up for the insufficiencies of reality by the production of wish-fulfillments” (Freud 2235). Connie’s unhappiness with her reality and her desire to escape from this struggle is perpetuated by her production of a phantastical second version of herself. She uses the outside version of herself to gain some freedom and escape the judgment of her (how does her outside version differ from her home) mother. Furthermore, Freud expresses that “the energetic and successful man is one who succeeds by his efforts in turning his wishful phantasies into reality” (Freud 2235). By becoming this second Connie who is more confident and outgoing, she is able to fulfill some of the desires that she is unable to fulfill at home. She can embrace her growing beauty and wear it more fully than she would be able to at home since her mother berates her for it. Through this Freudian lens, this part of Connie’s struggle becomes somewhat transparent. She battles with the idea of wanting people to see her as beautiful and to take her slightly more seriously, while being someone else in the safety of her own home, and she experiences constant judgment for it. Society has placed a large amount of importance on a woman’s appearance. The book “Body Work” concisely explains just how major this idea is by explaining that “Via popular women’s magazines, a discourse of body image problems is woven into the fabric of our everyday experience” (Blood, 1). This constant exposure has caused Connie to become aware of her looks and has increased her desire to take care of her appearance. In this part of the story, Oates illustrates Connie’s navigation of this societal concept and the unhappiness that springs from it, which can be further supported by the Freudian concept of phantasies.
The character Arnold Friend can also be looked at under a Freudian lens, specifically under the psychoanalytic concept of condensation. Condensation is most commonly used when analyzing a person’s dream and “has shown us that the unconscious makes use of a particular symbolism, especially for representing sexual complexes” (Freud 2273). It is used when a concept or multiple concepts have condensed themselves into one symbol within someone’s dream and Arnold’s interaction with Connie is arguably the most dream-like in the story. When he arrives at her house, he is able to tell her at that exact moment what the rest of her family is doing, despite them being at a party somewhere else in town (Oates 9). His knowledge of events that are happening simultaneously to this interaction supports the conclusion that this is a dream-like interaction. Under condensation, Arnold most likely represents the inevitability of Connie’s growth into adulthood. At first he seems enticing, and he comes off as a little flirty; Connie isn’t initially worried since she remembers him from the other night. Throughout their interaction he keeps pushing for the same thing, for her to get into the car. She gains more awareness of the situation, realizing how dangerous it actually is but in the end goes with him (Oates 14). Although she was extremely hesitant to go with him and resisted most of the time, she was locked in a difficult situation as he continued to threaten her with him coming into the house if she tried to call for help, and her deciding to go with him represents the inevitably of growing up and how it is not a smooth and easy process. In this way Arnold is a symbol of this strenuous process, as he is the one putting her through it.
Furthermore, the symbolism of Arnold’s character becomes even more transparent when connected back to the author’s commentary on the struggles of shifting from girlhood to adulthood. Arnold is quite literally a symbol of the struggle of growing up in general. It is a scary process because it is an unknown experience for the person going through it. Having the situation posed as a kidnapping also implies a fear more related to women. The oppression of women dates back to centuries ago and is still relevant today. In a community based survey, it is said that “nearly half of the respondents reported experiencing some kind of sexual abuse before reaching 16 years of age” (Randall and Haskell 6). It is not uncommon that young girls learn of the sexual violence and injustice they may face just because of their gender. In Connie’s case, Arnold is a predator since he has come to take her from her house and is much older than he appears to be. The sum of the number on his car is 69 which has a sexual connotation, further suggesting his threatening and sinister nature. In this way, Arnold has an underlying layer that specifically targets an encounter that most women learn of when they are young. Oates’ inclusion of Arnold’s character not only highlights the struggles of growing up, but emphasizes a very critical experience that girls confront as they grow as well.
By dissecting Joyce Carol Oates’ short story “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been” under a Freudian lens, we can gain a better understanding of her critique on the struggles of shifting from girlhood to adulthood. The insight the secondary lens gives can add a layer of comprehension that we wouldn’t be able to grasp from the story alone.
Works Cited
Blood, Sylvia K.. Body Work : The Social Construction of Women’s Body Image, Taylor & Francis Group, 2005. ProQuest Ebook Central, https://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/ccny-ebooks/detail.action?docID=182293.
RANDALL, MELANIE, and LORI HASKELL. “Sexual Violence in Women’s Lives: Findings from the Women’s Safety Project, a Community-Based Survey.” Violence Against Women, vol. 1, no. 1, Mar. 1995, pp. 6–31, doi:10.1177/1077801295001001002.
Freud, Sigmund. The Five Lectures On Psycho-Analysis. 1909, http://file:///C:/Users/Cindy/Downloads/Sigmund%20Freud%20[1909]%20Five%20Lectures%20on%20Psych-Aanalysis%20_James%20Strachey%20translation,%201955_.pdf. Accessed 13 Sept 2021.